Parenting is a tough task; ask any mom and dad, if you think I am wrong. Right from childhood there is a lot that you learn while raising a child. However when you have to deal with their teenage it is never going to be easy. There are many changes that are happening in the mind and body of teenagers that it becomes very difficult to keep calm for parents. Sometimes the teenagers behave violently or they are under depression. They can also experiment with alcohol and other substances and can become the victim of bullies and peer pressure. If you fail to notice the signs and symptoms of their changed behavior, you will never be able to understand your teenager. They might sound unavailable for any discussion and sometimes they feel uncomfortable to communicate with you. There can be many different reasons for their changed behavior and as a parent you must take your teenager as a friend and try to bridge the gap between you and them. Each youngster needs love, care and happiness to grow as a successful adult. Give them the environment where they can put their thoughts fearlessly and respect you. So below mentioned are few important points that you must take care of while you deal with your difficult teenager.
Change in their appearance:
It is a typical teen thing to get attracted towards the latest trends and experiment with new wardrobe. There is nothing wrong with it. If your teen is indulging themselves in coloring their hair in strange manner or wearing clothes that are screaming for attention, there is nothing to worry. This is the age where they like to standout and feel noticed. Do not criticize them for everything they wear and stop forcing them to wear what you buy for them. Also make sure to keep a check if they are doing some kind of self harm like getting anorexic or gaining weight to an extreme level. This is a sign that you must not ignore.
Arguments and rebellious behavior:
Asking for independence and arguing for various reasons is a typical teen behavior however if your teenager is constantly arguing at home or gets violent and starts missing school and indulging into fights. This is not normal. You must take care of your teen if they do so; if necessary take professional counseling and support.
Do not let them overpower you:
Teenagers can easily trigger you to the point where you lose your temper and react in a way that you actually do not want to. They can be disobeying, not at all listening to you or throwing their temper on you. They can also break the house rules and provoke you. At such a situation, try not to lose your temper and tell them straight that this is not going to work because if you react in anger, they consider that they have the powers over you.
Make sure to have clear boundaries:
If you are a parent to a teenager, you know what I mean when I say the teens try to challenge you to try their powers over you. If you don’t keep calm they assume that they are more powerful at home and they can do whatever they want. If you want to keep the environment of your home peaceful and have a healthy relationship with your teen, make sure to define the boundaries. You can make house rules and do not be very strict while you do so. Communicate with your teens in a nice and open way but do not let them take privilege of you being generous and friendly.
Communicate with them:
You might be very busy at work or have trouble in your own personal life. However if you want to deal with your difficult teenager, you need to have an open platform for discussions that go smooth and constructive. Do not discourage them for everything they do, but use your wit and analyze the situation so that they understand the truth and show love to them while keeping strictness in the rules that you have set for them.